It's okay to not be okay

Stop trying to be less of who you are. Let this time in your life cut you open and drain all of the things that are holding you back.
— Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl

I wish that’s all I had to say. I wish our minds would just accept that and go with it, but I know they won’t. I know I have to at least try to explain why it’s okay.

Let me start off by saying that we are all human, and being human comes with advantages and disadvantages. I mean, look at where we’ve come as the human species. We no longer live in caves, yay!

Being human means we are all unique though and that’s both good and bad.

Now, I’m not saying I wish all people were the same. No, that would be boring. What I’m trying to say is that each person on this planet has their own story. Their own challenges. Life for most of us is not easy. It’s one struggle after another. It’s one battle after another.

When our minds and not just our environment start creating those battles it gets even more complicated.

We all make mistakes, and it’s okay when we do. It’s a learning experience. We pick ourselves back up and have more information about what not to do as we move forward.

It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling at the moment. It’s what makes us human. I know it can get to be overwhelming at times and our minds start searching for that easy way out, but if it’s easy it’s not worth it. Struggles make us better people. They give us a greater understanding of our lives and of ourselves.

You have to allow your struggles and that pain to make you a better person.

Looking back, with everything that I went through growing up, all of the pain, anger, and frustration. I kept it bottled up deep inside of me, and there were two paths I could go down. I could let that pain transform me into a bitter, angry person, or I could use it as an example of who I didn’t want to be. All of the people who wronged me, I don’t want to be like them. I don’t want to continue this cycle. I don’t want someone else to feel the pain that I’ve felt.

I first had to realize that it’s okay to feel what I was and still am feeling. I needed to feel it instead of trying to ignore it.

The next step is always the hardest. Let it out! It doesn’t do any good to keep these thoughts and feelings trapped inside of you! First, start with yourself. Admit it to yourself. Acknowledge the thoughts and feelings. First, you have to admit that you aren’t okay to yourself. Tell yourself that there is something wrong and you need help. Convince yourself of it.

Now tell someone else. Tell them you aren’t okay. Tell them your struggles and pain. Remember that by telling someone we aren’t transferring those feelings, or that pain. It’s still ours and we still own them but by getting it out in the open someone else may be able to help you cope with them and help you find your way to a better understanding and hopefully healing in the process.

This is just a start to a long road of understanding and recovery.

Now today I challenge you to admit it to yourself. Quit making excuses that maybe you’re just a little sad. If you think something is wrong, then something is wrong.